Updated: Apr 4
During the cold, dreary days of winter, it's easy to put your social life on the back-burner. But we'll be turning the corner into spring in the next month, and that's the perfect time to elevate your social game and even seek out personalized coaching to help you prepare to come out of hiding! You can start by following these 5 simple tips to get the most out of your dating life
1. Remember that Courtship is Digital
Text messaging and sending pics, gifs, memes, and emojis are the tools of modern romance. If texting your crush or your significant other isn’t yet your daily habit, it’s not too late to get with the program! Show your playful, flirtatious side to show your person you’re thinking of them and make yourself memorable in their mind.
2. Stay Kissable
While courtship is largely digital, that doesn’t mean you never get together. When your schedules do line up for some face-to-face time, make sure you’re ready with smooth skin and kissable lips. Dry lips are a downer but they're oh-so-prevalent in the winter. Find a lip balm that will smooth out fine lines and wrinkles, and protect your lips from harmful things in the environment. Then pucker up those soft, hydrated lips!
3. Suggest a Unique Date Destination
Sure, dinner and a conversation is the classic dating activity, but it’s also pretty predictable. For the next outing, why not inject a little adventure and spontaneity in your dating routine? Hit a local market and strike up dramatic (and loud) role plays in front of strangers (this is a great way to get a read on their inhibition level -- or lack of!) Take an improv class together or grab a bottle of wine and pull up to a blank canvas at a paint-n-sip party. Then, skip down the street backwards to celebrate how spontaneous you are because YOU did something out-of-the-ordinary!
4. Don’t skip self-care
I have a client who suffers from chronic pain and inflammation. Managing pain is a daily chore – and it frequently results in a difficult emotional state for her. She’s ready to date, but it’s hard to “bring the fun” when you’re in unbearable pain! I advised her to listen to her body and skip social outings if her mood was down and her vibes were low. Take care of your body, mind, and spirit with healthy habits and regular self-care. This will allow you to be present, put your best foot forward, and have fun no matter what!
5. Entertain yourself
The concept of "have fun no matter what" is the key to enjoying the process of dating. Think of a fun activity you’ve been wanting to try and invite the person you've been talking to (maybe someone you're due for a date with) to come along.
Don’t over-focus on outcomes like “Is this person boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife material?” or “How many boxes will they tick?” When you let go of attachment to the outcome and lose the checklist, something kind of magical happens: If you’re having fun, the energy of the other person will match yours!
When you make your personal fun your priority, it frees you up to make your own random inside jokes that keep you amused. When you bring a good energy, you link up how you want to feel within the wider experience of dating.
Whether you are up-leveling your digital flirting game or taking advantage of coaching to help you feel better and up-level your skills, you can employ these 5 simple strategies to get the most out of your dating life . . . and remember to Be Love every day!