“If you will hold my hand, then I will hold my breath and cast my fate in the direction of my heart. I will put on hold my lesser dreams and reach for what is truly mine. Say you will, and I will buy my ticket for this ride. It will not be cheap, nor always smoooth. But I don’t care. I don’t care. I have finally come to that . . .” Marianne Williamson, Enchanted Love
This is a lovely sentiment. And I am here to hold your hand as you cast your fate in the direction of your heart. But it’s going to take more than whispers and prayers and positive visualization to get the heavens to open up and deposit a beloved on your doorstep. It’s going to take work. The good news is: it’s the fun kind of work. Probably among the most interesting and engaging and rewarding you’ll ever do. Because the work is about you. And getting what you want and need in your love life.
“Like it or not, early-stage dating has been, and always be, a game. And in recent years, the game has become more difficult to win, in part because daters are more sophisticated (influenced by more and deeper previous relationships) and because there are infinite players (courtesy of the online dating and social networking frenzy). Sophisticated singles with too many choices are playing with the strategy that someone “more perfect” might be only a mouse-click away. The new rules of this game are to rule out, not rule in.” This observation comes from Rachel Greenwald in her book Have Him At Hello.
She goes on to explain that “The strategic fumble I see most people make is going out on one first date after the next, sending the same signals over and over, without learning what went wrong if the last date didn’t work out.
The solution is to make simple adjustments, not change your whole personality and your whole lifestyle. The goal is for you to spend more of your valuable time on second dates with the men and women you want, rather than spending more time on first dates with the ones you don’t.”
So, that’s what dating coaching is and that’s what I do. I help you identify and avoid the strategic fumbles. I help you put together a better game plan and then I help you run the plays. I help you break your limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging habits. So you can have better dates with the kinds of people you enjoy and have a better chance of connecting with. Because we’re all wired for relationship. And that, is the anthropological-biological-eschatalogical-physiological-psychological-theological truth!
With a professional background that includes time spent in academia, print and broadcast media, and customer service, The Date Maven looks to the common themes of marketing, promotions, and public relations to inform her approach. It’s a method infused with strategies that will help you find romantic connection – and if desired, commitment. And — in refreshing contrast to many of the more infamous Dating Coaches and Matchmakers in the public eye — she’s smart, kind, and easy to work with. No overbearing theatrics for the benefit of reality tv crews, just no-nonsense advice dispensed with midwestern warmth and down-to-earth intelligence.
Whether it’s on the job hunt or in the dating world, everyone wants to put their best foot forward. So, be proactive. The Date Maven has an extensive toolbox full of strategies for dating success. It’s part business school, part performance, and part intuition. Let The Date Maven help empower you make your own match — and make it last!
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